Abusers intimidating pets with staring
1967; Fox 1971a; Zimen 1975, 1982; Lockwood 1979; van Hooff et al.1987) is particularly misleading.” What we know now, thanks to Mech and others, is that in the wild, a wolf pack is a family, consisting of a mated pair and their offspring of the past one to three years.
The concept of the alpha wolf as a ‘top dog’ ruling a group of similar-aged compatriots (Schenkel 1947; Rabb et al. He may seem almost comical to you, with that usually serene feline face contorted into an open-mouthed sneer as his ears flatten, back arches and tail fluffs out in a poufy plume.The hissing sound and posture is far from funny to your cat, though, because a cat that hisses is in defensive mode.Or he may be serving notice that he is the top dog (or cat, rather) and whoever's in his path must respect the boundaries he's establishing.Unneutered male cats on the verge of a fight will hiss loudly, communicating displeasure at each other's presence. Some experts in feline behavior believe that cats actually developed this habit by imitating snakes.After a woman breaks-up from a controlling partner, he may send her gifts, such as jewellery and flowers, with a card saying, “Sorry, I love you.” To someone who has lived with ongoing coercive control by this man, the gift and the message means something threatening to her, for example, the unwelcome gift and message may mean he will try every tactic possible to manipulate his way back in; or he knows my every move; or there is no escape; or I am unsafe.
It is important for the victim of symbolic aggression to trust their gut instinct about what they view the tactics to mean, and to do whatever it takes to keep themselves, and their children if they have any, safe.
Sally said, “every time I prepared a portion of the garden to grow vegetables, Dylan would take over that patch, planting what he wanted.
He did the same in the house, so that any time I claimed personal space, he would take it over.” Other men lock women out of the house.(4) Yet other men may use space to intimidate, for example a man interviewed by Lundgren said, “It makes her reconsider when I lock her up in a cupboard. Give her a sense of her total dependency, that’s the only way.”(5) Sam, a man who admitted to controlling and abusing his partner said, “I used to get shitty when my girl used to go read a book in bed by herself.
Here's our handle on hissing: Cats hiss to let you know something has made them unhappy.
Your reaction may be to approach or reprove the cat, but his hissing action should override your impulse.
Alternatively, intimidation may result from the type of society in which individuals are socialized, as human beings are generally reluctant to engage in confrontation or threaten violence.