Bpd dating another bpd
All beginnings are lovely – or so the sage proclaims. Two individuals come together – attraction, lust, love, personality styles, personal and family histories, attachment and life styles collide – and there you are in the middle of a daring, challenging, and steamy relationship.
While someone with depression or anxiety may feel that they are experiencing symptoms that are different from their normal state, people with personality disorders often fail to realize that their emotions and reactions depart from the typical human experience.Because of this, the speed at which my emotions fluctuate is breathtaking, and they tend to be extremes of emotion, such as elation or utter despair.I have to work hard at managing and regulating my emotions.Dealing with borderline personality disorder requires skills for deescalating crises and fostering independence in your loved one.With the right tools and community strategies, it is possible to help your loved one towards recovery.This is very difficult, and sometimes I get overwhelmed." —Andrea Shaw "Think of someone who is highly sensitive living in a cruel world.
Not only does the cruel world not value sensitivity, but it inflicts trauma.
The film Fatal Attraction (quite an excellent performance by Glenn Close) and the recent court case of Jodi Arias come to mind.
What do all the films and print stories have in common? Dating a person with BPD is not part of your deal – or so you thought.
That person experiencing pain will respond in genius ways such as dissociative coping, only to have others interpret this protective response as angry and manipulative. The best way to describe it would be like this: When you're really high on marijuana, and your hands don't feel like they're yours, or you'll say something and you're like, Did I just say that? It was very frightening, and doctors kept saying it was depression." —Royal Cumings "Most people with BPD that I've met are very gentle souls; they're very kind people.
If our community valued sensitivity, and understood our responses to pain, we could enjoy life; we'd want to be present for it." —Mary Hofert Flaherty "Depersonalization is basically a defense mechanism, usually after some kind of trauma, but when you get chronic depersonalization — like I did — you get caught in that state for months. It's a sensitive brain combined with either trauma or invalidation.
Buzz Feed reached out to six people with BPD — men and women, ages 19-36 — to find out what it's really like.