Dating a very busy person
Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.” ― Wall Street Journal “I did things I did not understand for reasons I could not begin to explain just to be in motion, to be trying to do something, change something in a world I wanted desperately to make over but could not imagine for myself.” ― Dorothy Allison, “They tell you: Follow your dreams.
I will often purposely try not to make plans with other people just in case he's able to find some time to hang out with me which makes me feel so pathetic when he doesn't call.We recently talked about a job for which we both wanted to apply, and that conversation didn’t really go well.I almost wish one of us could find a different area of practice, but I don’t think either of us should make that sacrifice.I feel really hurt by it.then comes guilt because I feel like I'm being selfish, wanting to hang out with him when he is so busy.I should also mention that we never make plans in advance just in case he has to do schoolwork or gets called in for an extra shift at work.You wake up expecting to give your boyfriend a kiss and once again, he’s gone.
That’s the 5th time this week that he’s not around at your convenience and a sure sign you are dating a busy man. I understand how frustrating it can be for you to want to spend quality time with your boyfriend. You begin questioning your self worth, wondering if there’s something wrong with you.
He works most weekends as a paramedic (12 hour shifts) and is also in school full time.
Any weekends he's not working he is getting caught up on assignments.
I think the furthest we've ever planned anything in advance was the day before..usually he texts me about an hour before he can hang out.
It makes me feel like I'm not much of a priority.I feel like maybe I'm being "too available".
What’s happening right now is that you’re over thinking things.