Dating an orthodox seminarian
George Aquaro I’ve known a lot of men who have deeply yearned to go to seminary.
Paris was getting pressured by his mentor, the Rev. George in Bethesda, told Paris he had the potential to become one of a dozen bishops in the Greek Orthodox Archdiocese of America, the largest Orthodox denomination in the United States. Because Orthodox bishops come only from the ranks of unmarried priests, he faced the choice of all Orthodox seminary graduates: Be ordained unmarried and promise to remain that way throughout your career, or get married and then be ordained. But he acknowledged that the older he got as a bachelor, and the longer he postponed his ordination, the more likely he was to choose the life of an unmarried priest.Clerical marriage is admitted in Protestantism, Anglicanism, some Independent Catholic Churches (not in communion with Rome), Judaism, Islam, and the Japanese sects of Buddhism.The Eastern Orthodox, Oriental Orthodox, and Eastern Catholic Churches, while allowing married men to be ordained, do not allow clerical marriage after ordination.Does the Church hold up any paradigms for marriage to provide the framework for a Christ-centered marriage? The Church offers three icons from which we can learn how to live the married life: Christ the Bridegroom, Sts. These icons represent the three dimensions of marriage, the personal, the intimate, and the communal, respectively. Even in its shortened form, porn is just a word–a word that simply describes something that is demeaning, causes objectification, makes us feel funny, drives the largest slavery operation in the history of the world, and changes the ways we think and act. More » Domestic violence is about power and control.Collectively they give us an Orthodox model for marriage. It is not about being out of control or losing control.It is a systematic pattern of coercive behaviors intended to punish, gain and maintain control of the victim.
It frequently begins so subtly that victims may not realize what is happening. A wonderful time for family, friends, relaxing, and playing.
With the permission of the Seminary’s President, Fr. Chrysostom, whom I’d met during my parish assignment at St. I had already learned a bit about his fascinating life, and I wanted him to share his story further with me and with my fellow seminarians. Chrysostomos serves large communities of converts, by riding from village to village each Sunday on his bicycle, and organizing benevolent projects for the elderly and for orphans. Christopher's, an orphanage and elementary school in rural Nigeria, under the jurisdiction of the Greek Orthodox Patriarchate of Alexandria. Chrysostomos serves five different parish communities in the area!
The Orthodox Church in Nigeria, he told us, is growing, but the resources are scarce, and finding young men to become priests, training them, and then providing livable salaries for them are all serious challenges.
All that a feeling tells you is that you feel something. Most men who think about becoming priests think about the glamorous bits, like serving in front of the Holy Altar or providing wise counsel to those humbled by sin.
The more mundane bits, like sitting through endless meetings or being patently ignored by most of the congregation, usually gets swept away with grandiose visions of being the next Elder Paisios or St. I’m not going to tell you to go or not to go, but I am going to say that you need to double- and triple-check yourself before you go off to seminary.
They deserve your admiration and attention for surviving.