Dating lessons for youth pastors
When I was moving through the maze of adolescence, a different question brought this whole issue into focus for me: how far will I want the woman I spend the rest of my life with to have gone with the person she dated right before meeting me? It may have been difficult for me to determine how far I should go, but I knew exactly how far the person I would one day marry should go – not very far. When my sons got to the magic age when traditional fathers have the traditional talk, I informed them we were going to handle the situation a bit differently. Well, most boys are introduced to the topic of sex before they are actually interested in sex. I think you will find the answer is the same for you Q: How do you respond to teens who claim sexting is “OK” since it’s just digital?Q: What do you wish you had known while parenting your own teens through the dating years? Instead of an awkward 15-minute talk, we were going to begin an awkward 15-year conversation. By the time they’re actually interested in sex, they’ve forgotten all those fascinating insights their fathers shared. Q: In your opinion, what is the biblical answer to the age-old question “how far is too far? Every time you entertain yourself with nude and erotic images you are at school.
Despite this crusade for purity, though, statistics show that a great many of those same kids will fail miserably in the area that they were trying to succeed in.GET PDF OF THIS BLOG POST It’s one of the most yucky things that any youth worker gets to navigate. At worst, the pain and awkwardness of those continued interactions between the former-couple leads one or both of them to drop out of youth group altogether; sometimes for a season, and sometimes forever.Two of the students in your youth group are dating. There’s no recipe or formula here that’s going to prevent any or all of those things from happening, but there is solid advice for how you can continue to minister to both students even after the breakup. Imagine how terrible you’d feel if the longest relationship of your life just ended.Andy Stanley, the founder of North Point Ministries, is perhaps most well known for carrying on his father’s legacy as a prolific preacher and author.His latest book, “The New Rules For Love, Sex and Dating,” boldly pushes past the Church’s typical playbook when confronting young people about their sex lives.Their relationship with Jesus must be mastered now and for all of life, and of course their relationship with their spouse will be later.
This study is all about how a relationship with Jesus through the gospel will get them ready for a godly marriage down the road.
Personally, I have been through a youth group that was very similar.
The Youth Pastor(s) taught purity accurately, showing that Jesus is the One who makes us pure, yet a great many of the students (including myself) didn’t fully grasp what that meant.
He didn’t hold back when we asked him what youth ministers, youth workers and parents should know about teen dating and sexual purity.
Q: What’s the best advice you received about teaching teens to abstain from sex until marriage?
Especially in a smaller youth groups where students can’t separate into their own social circles, that awkwardness is legitimate.