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It had never occurred to me that my spouse could drop dead without warning.Up until that point, I’d approached most situations with an aura of entitled invincibility. I was 33 and had just started a new, high-profile job; our beautiful daughter was just 10 months old.

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Which means I need to tell you that I wish I cared more that I’m not talking to the Farmer. Because I have found that almost always, the secrets we keep matter a lot to us, but they don’t matter to other people. “I have a secret: I drank wine at breakfast today and I haven’t stopped.” I thought Melissa would email back that I’m an idiot and I’ll be in rehab. I’ll have to shoot the elephant.” Then she said, “No. But first we have to really believe the alternative is terrible. I should set new, really high traffic goals for my blog, and meet them. Like, I did not think it was a big deal when I said I was having a miscarriage, but that was a huge deal to a huge number of people. He is one of the most famous safari guides in the world, and he says he tells people to “never run away from an animal. It’s very hard to tell which of our secrets are huge and which are small. Then run.” And there was one time when he was guiding a man and woman through some elephants, and a mother elephant started chasing them. They ran for about half a mile, and they still hadn’t gotten away. And I thought it was a huge deal when I said I was trying anti-anxiety meds, but no one really cared. What is a huge secret to you and what is a huge secret to everyone else is so different. I remember what the kids saw, though: He kicked me out of the house in front of the kids. And that is why, I think, that stories have so much power.

And you put her stuff on the porch.” The Farmer said, “I lost my temper. My son said, “I am worried that Dad is going to throw you out of the house and then I will just live with him on the farm with him and I’m worried you won’t have a place to live.” That killed me. It is well known that as a rational act of self-preservation kids will often identify with the aggressor in the marriage. So I can’t let the kids see us have a fight again because our fights are not safe for them to see. Because the fights are too costly emotionally to the kids. I’m sad that work is so much more fun than my personal life.” He hugged me.

Don't fill up every available hour with overtime; set aside social time each week, whether it's going somewhere with friends, joining a club, taking a class, or just watching TV when there's nothing else planned.

Having some malleable “me” time makes it easier to adjust to new scenarios, whether it's starting a new relationship or getting a pet.

Gregg and I met at work; we were both workaholics who logged 60- to 80-hour weeks in dotcom jobs.

I admired his quiet determination and ability to communicate complex tech-speak without sounding like a jerk; I think he appreciated my unconventional drive and new-media savvy.

If you want to break an existing cycle, it will require conscious decisions and effort.