Dating your first love twice
This is the person who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about other people, even if some of these loveable qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable. Because for the rest of your life, they will control how you feel about everyone else.”The first couple times I read that, I was blown away and didn't really want to believe that it was the case.
Losing first love is probably more hurtful than losing any subsequent love or breaking up in the future.As in most other situation, you cannot impose yourself upon someone who doesn’t want to be with you, and the harder you try the more they would want to stay away from you, as you simply cannot convince another person to be with you and neither should you try.No matter how badly you want to be with that other person and how special you think he or she is, it takes two to tango, and if the other person refuses to “dance” – then you have to look for another dancing partner, without looking back.I spent a couple of years writing couples' love stories for a newspaper's now-discontinued Sunday lifestyle section, and quite a few of them were about reunited first loves, or those who married their high school sweethearts. (This excludes of course those who go through a divorce with said person!Then they remain unforgettable in a truly different fashion!First and foremost, we need to create our own definitions of love.
I'm not referring to the “love” you find when you're 15 and on the phone with your crush for three hours or the “love” you find during college when you have no idea where your life is headed or where you want to be or who you want to be.
) The reason first love stories are so compelling to read is because there is something so powerful about a young love experience.
Is it because it happens when our hearts are still innocent and pure -- before that first inevitable heartbreak?
An unfinished love keeps some allure for many years.
Whatever keeps those tender feelings in play, some long to have that feeling again as evidenced by those who go in search of that first love.
Fast forward 33 years and that same ‘boy’ and I are speeding through the dusk in his flaming red Ferrari.