Interracial dating and marriage challenges
Will it be harder to be married to another race, and will it be harder for the kids? What I would like to provide here is biblical and practical advice on to how to engage a disapproving family, whether it is your own or your significant other’s, toward the ends of God being glorified, sin mortified, Satan horrified, and all involved edified. The term “enemy” may sound a bit harsh to some, but when a family is opposing you or your relationship simply because of the racial dynamic (while simultaneously making a relationship with a potential spouse more difficult), it’s hard to view them as anything else. Biblical love is the basis for everything I have to say here. The Scriptures call us to love that prevails and changes our current circumstances.When nurses call out Becky Wang’s name in waiting rooms of doctors’ offices, they usually get a confused look when she stands up.
We know of no biblical or moral considerations that would prohibit interracial marriage, and we disagree with those who attempt to use the Bible to condemn it.When engaging the topic of interracial dating, we must recognize that no ethnicity is monolithic.Therefore, we are called to get to know individuals and avoid jumping to conclusions based on the color of one’s skin.Minelle Mahtani, an associate professor in human geography and journalism at the University of Toronto Scarborough, wrote the book Mixed Race Amnesia: Resisting the Romanticization of Multiraciality in Canada. I stress “potentially” since often it is assumed that people of different ethnicities are automatically opposites.With our changing cultural landscape and a modern demography with such a rich blend of race and religion, dating outside your race is no longer uncommon.
However, many of the challenges interracial couples might face can actually come from within the relationship, rather than from a judgmental society.
The rate of interracial marriages increased by 28 percent in the last decade, according to the U. Just like any marriage, however, the thing that binds interracial couples together, and what helps them bridge the divides they face, is having the same values and shared vision of life.
“Despite having different families of origin, our values are aligned,” Becky said.
“I can tell they are looking for someone Asian and when they see me they have to re-shift their thoughts,” she said.
Her husband, Dennis, is Chinese American, and she is from a white family. They don’t expect me to be Caucasian.” The occasional confused look is the least of the challenges faced by couples in interracial and intercultural marriages.
“Our priorities all align despite our different upbringings and heritage.