Jewish and chinese intercultural dating
Photo courtesy of the author THE FIRST TIME I got a whiff of judgement about my interracial marriage came from a close friend of my family. While some Japanese people looked upon his “fetish” with distaste. On my side, I got yelled at by older people while in a more traditional part of Japan for “denying my cultural identity” as a Japanese woman (I learned quickly how to say “I’m a Chinese person” — it didn’t always make a difference).This person was of a previous generation (or several previous generations), was living in the American south at the time, and had “what was best” for my husband and me at heart. Upon learning of our engagement, she clicked her tongue and a look like she’d just been told the ice cream she was eating was made out babies, crossed her face. And a couple times I was accused of “marrying a white guy to rebel against my Japanese parents”.
While on the US mainland many of the comments were geared more toward the fact that I am Asian, in Hawai’i my husband actually felt a bit more of the scrutiny. Maybe it was because he had lived in this city (which I like to think of as Jewish as Woody Allen) his whole life. But later, when I left Starbucks, I wondered if I really was out of the mainstream, as a shiksa with a Chinese husband, Was it true? You usually see Jewish women married to Chinese men.” “Really? ” I was so stunned, I still I can’t remember what he said.The purpose of this post if to tell you the reasons why and how to over come these issues with cross cultural Asian European dating.So these are the common problems Indian guys face in Europe.While Los Angeles is not discussed here, the four New York incidents examined remain particularly worthy of analysis.
This paper focuses on understanding the roles, reactions, and perceptions of three groups of people: West Indian immigrants, African Americans, and white ethnic Americans.
The meanings attached to racial and ethnic identities: are these oppositional identities, immigrant identities, or symbolic identities? The relationship of the group and its component individuals to the state: do they trust the institutions of the state to be fair and honest?
Do they see systematic oppression, and the power of the state exercised against them, or do they see the state as an instrument of power to be used by their own group or as a neutral arbiter among groups? The meanings attached to incidents of hate crimes, violence, and intergroup encounters: are they perceived as temporary, accidental and individualized, or as permanent, systematic, and institutionalized?
Eighteen percent of the Chinese and Japanese American women and men we interviewed were married to Jewish partners.
Five described how they shared a cultural affinity with their Jewish spouses; most often they mentioned how both cultures valued strong family ties and educational achievement.
On a dating site you never see “beautiful Russian blond seeking Indian guy – just leave your mobile number”.