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Stigma against internet dating

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"We're also at similar places in our lives, being students, which makes it easier to relate." Columbia University students Balazs Alexa and Jean Meyer started the dating website on campus in November.

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We met that Saturday night, and I brought my friend along for a safety net, and thank God.Alexa and Meyer, both recent graduates of the Business School, came up with the idea after a girlfriend complained that there was not enough testosterone in the School of Social Work.On the flip side, men in the Business School often wished for more women study buddies.Experts say online dating sites see a huge traffic increase between Christmas and Valentine’s Day.With the number of visitors these sites get each month, that increase is pretty significant: Some current estimates report between 10.5 and 23.8 million unique visitors per month for two major dating sites.Between 20, the number of people using online dating sites doubled, from 20 million to 40 million, and about one third of America’s single people participated in some sort of online dating last year.

But despite these numbers, it’s unclear if online dating is any more effective than, or really any different from, meeting someone offline.

It’s not that I necessarily have anything against online dating; I have just never done it. That would mean I would have to meet this person in my ‘everyday’ life.

A friend of mine pointed out to me recently that I am the only person she knows our age that hasn’t tried it. I know a lot of people who have been successful with it, too, but for whatever reason when my complaints of the quality of men I’ve met is answered with a ‘what about online? My answer has always been that it just feels so forced, and I want something more organic. Well, my everyday life currently consists of work, yoga in my living room, and plans with friends on the weekend, including, of course, the occasional adventure to the bar.

With some goading from a friend — who somehow convinced me that the stigma against online dating was no more — I joined Ok Cupid and started scanning the thousands of matches that popped up on my screen.

Apparently, I wasn’t alone in my Valentine’s Day depression-induced hunt for Prince Charming.

He opened her profile and saw her name was Michelle Przybyski. One walk of four hours with Lalinde's dog, Domino, around campus and a date at the library (that didn't really involve studying) later, the two Columbia University graduate students applied for a marriage license in New York just 10 days after meeting in person. With countless dating websites such as, and, the online dating market is a bit crowded.